Discussion: Grief

What is grief?

What are some MINOR things that might cause grief?
What are some MAJOR things that cause grief?

“Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behavior.”
 “Deep sorrow or sadness”

Death of a spouse
Marital separation
Death of a close family member
Personal injury or illness
Dismissal from work
Change in health of family member
Change in financial state
Death of a close friend
Change to different line of work
losing a house or moving
failing a test
low grades
disappointing someone
Begin or end school
Change in living conditions
trouble with teachers
Change in schools
Change in social activities
Change in sleeping habits
trouble with the law
Loss of Trust, Loss of Approval, Loss of Safety and Loss of Control of my body

What are some UNHEALTHY ways to deal with grief?

What are some healthy ways to deal with grief?

Stages of grief:

Denial, Anger, Bargaining (Blame), Depression, Acceptance

Have you ever felt a loss, and gone through those stages? 
Can you go back and forth between those stages?
What helps you get to acceptance? 
How do you think God wants us to feel when we grieve?

2 Corinthians 1:3-4
3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.
PSALM 34:17-18The righteous cry out, and the Lord hears them;
    he delivers them from all their troubles.
18 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted
    and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

When we are sad, disappointed, hurt, or lonely, it is God’s desire to comfort us. Sometimes that comfort comes through other people, through prayer, through reading the Bible. There are lots of ways for us to find comfort, and to heal- but that won’t happen if we isolate ourselves, or don’t talk to safe people who want to see us healthy.