What does it mean to judge?
Can you think of some negative examples of judging?
Can you think of any positive examples of judging?
Why do people not like to feel like they are being judged?
Is it easy to feel judgement towards others? What sorts of behaviors do you notice that tempt you to judge others? (Do not say names or gesture when answering this question, please)
God’s word (the Bible) warns us about our judging of others, and gives us some guidelines for when it is ok, and under what circumstances. Let’s read it!
Read this passage:
 “Do not judge, or you too will be judged.  For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.  “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?  How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?  You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” -Matthew 7:1-5 NIV
So it is a good idea not to judge things too quickly, but we can judge for ourselves whether or not something is right or wrong. Confronting others should be done in love, and with the right attitude after some artful reflection about our own faults for a more humble (& correct) perspective.
Can you share about a time someone confronted you about something you were doing wrong, and you felt like they really cared about you, and were not condescending or rude as they talked with you?
Are you good at this process?
How can you better interact with others in this way?
Let’s pray to God for guidance in this.